Empowering you to make Big Decisions with confidence.
Hawaii Family Law Resources
Please Note: I am not taking new clients at this time, but will continue to provide education and insights regarding Family Law matters on this website.
I talk about the legal and financial implications of marriage, child-custody, paternity, co-parenting, separation, divorce, asset division, custody, parenting plans and other big decisions that affect you, your children and your family so you can make confident and informed decisions.
Learn to be your own most trusted advocate.
Hi, I'm Annabel Murray.
I decided to start Big Decisions HI LLLC to provide information and online resources to people making big decisions about marriage, having children (whether married or unmarried), partnership, child custody, parenting plans, separation and divorce, and other major life transitions.
Family law and legal decisions can be complicated and confusing. Consider Big Decisions your resource center, because no one should have to make such Big Decisions alone.
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Custody & Children's Best Interests
I offer online resources about how to make empowered legal decisions with a focus on what’s best for your children. Drawn out litigation and custody battles negatively impact children’s mental wellbeing.
Representing Yourself in Court
Not everyone can afford an attorney, and not everyone who can afford an attorney needs to hire one. For some people it’s more effective and gives them more control over their lives and the outcome of the case to represent themselves.
This is called, appearing “pro se.” (Latin for, “in one’s own behalf”). To represent yourself means to speak for yourself, to talk directly to the person who is representing your ex, (or your ex, if they chose to be unrepresented as well) and to take on the responsibility, and the right, to tell your story and ask for what you want from a Family Court judge.
Marriage & Partnership
Financial infidelity is the second leading cause of divorce in the United States after infidelity. Start your shared life together with a clear, mutually defined picture of your financial standings.
Choosing an Attorney
Most attorneys ask you to pay a retainer of between $5000 and $10,000 just to get started on your case. You need to be confident that the attorney is right for you before you pay to hire them; whoever you hire will have your money and your life in their hands.
I offer resources to help you identify the most important issues in your case, including the potential level of conflict and what to look for in an attorney.
Divorce & Separation
High-conflict divorces are painful, intrusive, and extremely expensive, benefitting your legal representations’ banks accounts more than anything else. Learn from Big Decisions before filing to understand the implications of this difficult decision.
Relocation with Children
Hawaii often feels too expensive for a single parent who is not from Hawaii or who does not have a solid support system available to them. Sometimes better job opportunities exist in other states, and it can be hard to imagine remaining in Hawaii. The struggle to live in Hawaii is real.
On the other hand, you may be the person who believes that Hawaii is the best place for your kids to live, and you cannot imagine how they will thrive anywhere else, or how it could be in their best interests to live without daily contact with you. How can you parent from across an ocean?
The best time to make the big decision about where you will raise your children is before you have them.
